I was inspired to write this piece by a small incident. In the process of interpersonal communication, we usually pay attention to certain details that can influence our impression of a person. This is a normal behavior for humans.
For example, when two people are chatting and one of them keeps checking their phone, it gives a very impolite impression. Of course, if there is work to be done or other matters to attend to, that's a different story. Let's think about it from a different perspective, if someone is truly busy, they wouldn't engage in this social interaction in the first place. So, it's a paradox. In reality, there are rarely situations where someone is extremely busy.
In social interactions, we mostly have a benevolent purpose, hoping to gain some "benefits" from others. Here, benefits refer more to virtual emotions such as happiness, joy, and satisfaction. So, when I socialize with friends in my daily life, including but not limited to dining together or going on trips, I focus on the activity at hand. If there are other things to take care of, I will handle them in advance so as not to disrupt the activity.
I believe this is a normal attitude that a person should have in social interactions, a necessary attitude. It is a positive and proactive attitude filled with positive energy. If both parties have this attitude, I believe the social interaction will be a pleasant experience.
But as the saying goes, "There are all kinds of birds in a big forest." You can't guarantee that everyone's social attitude and behavior will be positive. Translated into everyday terms, it means a person's etiquette. You can't be sure if they are truly polite or if they have offended you in some way.
So, when you feel emotionally uncomfortable or have any opinions about them, the best approach is to indirectly inquire and see if there are any important reasons behind their behavior that lacks etiquette. If there are genuine reasons, I will express understanding.
However, if it is truly a personality issue that causes them to consistently behave this way, I generally understand but will reassess whether this person truly has the opportunity to become a good friend.
I personally believe that basic etiquette is essential.
On another note, phones are not that interesting. There's no need to walk or eat while looking at your phone. If you really want to play, you can enjoy yourself when you're alone. When in a group, it's best to prioritize socializing, otherwise, social interaction loses its meaning, doesn't it?